Well I don't know how you were cheated Or what was cheated when we are cheated There are many things a what were our Blind spots we have to be aware with Aware of what they are so that we can Prevent those things from happening B Was the person acting with malice or was The person acting with selfishness you Know were they trying to hurt us or are They just trying to gain for themselves Um Um were we taken advantage of where did We contribute look the world is a cruel Place I hate to I hate to be cynical About it Um and we can't go around not trusting Anybody because we're afraid that Someone's gonna you know lie to us or Cheat us Um because then we'd never build Relationships and so there's an Acceptable level of risk we have to we Have to take Um but if you were cheated Um You can forgive but not forget kind of Thing which is you'd be like I forgive You because you know it causes me more Pain to Harbor anger Um but I'm gonna move on and don't Expect anything from me in the future You can absolutely do that