When covet first hit you know I like so Many Um had to Pivot my business and we we Had you know serious issues that we had To face immediately there was no there Was no luxury of time and I called a Friend of mine who's active duty Military and I asked him a very simple Question which is how do I Compartmentalize my emotions so that I Can stay focused on the mission And he said you can't And he actually gave me a very Stern Warning he said we can do it for very Very short periods of time he says but No one escapes the trauma of combat he Says some people go through it many Months after they get back and people Are all confused because everything's Fine and we're familiar and like we know That we know the score and you're back Home but that's when it starts to show Up and so I called all of my a-type Personality friends and said okay none Of us are going to get through this Without feeling something so we made a Deal that if we started to feel anything We would call each other and sure enough Um a friend of mine started to go Through it and she called me and we had You know she's a she's a she's a Well-known CEO and you know went for Long walks and and struggled and we did It together
Um about four or five months into the The pandemic I started to feel off my Game I started to feel a little burnt Out a little tired a little unmotivated And so I called that same military Friend and I said by the way what are Your symptoms when you when you start to Suffer trauma and he said I uh I go to Bed late and don't want to get out of Bed in the morning for no particular Reason I went yup he said I'm I have an Uh an unproductive day and I'll Rationalize it like oh that's okay You're allowed a day of unproductivity But I'll have another and another and Another and I went yep And then he said I become really Anti-social I don't want to talk to Anyone and I definitely don't want to Ask anybody for help and I went yup and What I realized is I was going through The trauma Um and so I asked him what do you do and He says you have to force yourself to Get into a sleep habit and you have to Reach out to people for help and that's What I did I called people and told them That I was struggling Um and I came up with a rule that There's no crying alone That if you feel overwhelmed you just Pick up the phone and call somebody say Can I just talk and I think the thing That gets us through this is is the
Quality of our relationships quite Frankly Um and and if the company talks about These things it makes it that it removes The stigma if somebody calls somebody Else up and says I'm struggling today
